The Promise

Truth from the 
Trenches of Adoption 

   This is a must read for anyone considering adoption and anyone interested in a career in supporting adoptive parents. In fact, it is a must read for anyone who has ever been called on to believe in someone else. Christen and Lisa boldly tell it like it is and create a clear, well-written account of an incredible journey. This is a powerful book about a powerful story.
                Barb Leavitt
                Author of "Given a Chance", and co-author of "Facilitating an Everyday Life," and "Her Shoes are brown and other stories."

 Christen Shepherd and her husband Trevor were busy parents of two boys when they started their adoption journey, initially planning to adopt a little girl. They soon found themselves the proud parents of a sibling group of four children.

   Lisa Highfield is a child and youth counsellor who knew the children in a previous placement and came into the family to help Christen and Trevor navigate the treacherous waters of raising traumatized children.

   This book is the story of the family’s experiences in the first year of placement. The book relates the real journey of adoption for many families. Christen shares very personal details of her family’s struggles in bringing four children who have experienced trauma and loss into their life. Lisa adds her perspective both as a helper in the family and a professional in theory and practice of parenting traumatized children. The result is a powerful read that will provide anyone who is involved in adoption with a great deal of important information and insight into the journey of adoption.

   This book is recommended for anyone who is involved in adoption.

  • For parents just starting the adoption process it will help them prepare for what the first year of transitioning children into a family can actually look like.
  • For parents who are already in the trenches of parenting children who have experienced trauma, it offers affirmation and the hope to persevere through the challenging times. Healing can happen!
  • For Youth and Family workers who work in placing children for adoption and supporting families post adoption, this book offers amazing insights, tips and strategies that can be offered to families to give families hope through challenging times.

   As Christen and Lisa say in their introduction – “ Together, our aim is to assure struggling parents that they are not alone, to provide support, practical information, and the strength to carry on – no matter how hard- to uplift parents as they provide a bright future for a child who has already been denied too much.” This book accomplishes this goal and more.

                             Adoption Council of Ontario, newsletter August 2013.